Sex is powerful. God created sex to be enjoyed between a man and a woman within the context of a marriage. There is tremendous blessing and responsibility involved with sex, because it is through sex that God brings about new life. Sex is also intensely pleasurable and intimate, which magnifies its blessing within marriage but also its destructive power outside of the marriage relationship.
God created sex. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. – Genesis 2:24-25 ESV
Making babies is good. And God blessed them; and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it. – Genesis 1:28 ESV
Sex is delightful. How beautiful and pleasant you are, O loved one, with all your delights! Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters. I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the scent of your breath like apples, and your mouth like the best wine. – Song of Solomon 7:6-9 ESV
Adultery [sex outside of marriage] is destructive. He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself. – Proverbs 6:32 ESV
Stay far away from sexual temptation. Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife. – Proverbs 6:27-29 ESV
Don’t allow the marriage bed to go cold. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always with her love. – Proverbs 5:18-19 ESV
When it comes to sex the teaching of the Bible is pretty simple: one man, one woman, within one marriage. Sadly, because sex is so powerful and man is so sinful, this simple teaching often gets incredibly complicated. If you have made sinful sexual decisions, take heart. Jesus died for ALL sin, including those of a sexual nature. That means Jesus died for sins related to adultery, lust, pornography, sexual abuse, and countless others. Going forward, commit to the pursuit of holiness in your sexual life, so that whether you are single, married, or single again your life can be a Gospel example to those around you.
Song of Solomon
1 Corinthians 6:12-20
Biblical Lovemaking: A Study of the Song of Solomon, by Arnold Fruchtenbaum
Sex and Money: Pleasures That Leave You Empty and Grace That Satisfies, by Paul Tripp
The Meaning of Marriage, by Tim Keller
Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, by Kevin Leman